Difficult to understand US :)
Women are very complicated creatures. As much as you, MEN, think you understand her, you still miss a lot. Not because you fail in this job, on the contrary, sometimes you try your best, but it is because of the target and the benefit of your efforts.
You want to understand women because beside her you are a failure. You want to know why you win everything around you, and when it comes to understand how we think you feel you are a looser!!
I will give you one reason: it is because you want to understand her to win her later, not to give her what she needs from you. Once you feel you got all the knowledge and master the instruction book attached to women, you will abandon her.
You are too busy to hear her, to comfort her, to pamper her. So why are you concerned to understand her? You men should know something; women are not stupid creatures…
Not because we are emotional creatures we should be empty from inside. Not because we are very helpful human beings we are loosers. Not because we give birth to your children we don’t understand anything except in changing diapers. Not because we cook your meal everyday our bodies smells onions. Not because our tears fall when you are far away means we can't live without you!!!
If you are a man, read the previous paragraph and think, can you do one of the mentioned activities we master without complaining or messing or .. or .. or ..
Maybe one or two out of hundred would, but not all of you, and still you think you are superior!!! Women can do all what you men do. You think that your work outside your home is the greatest job which differentiates you men from women.
Look around you men, women are Doctors, Engineers, Nurses, Teachers, Graphic Designers, Dentists, Architectures, Managers in different fields etc … Women are everywhere, why? Do you think the employers want their companies to bankrupt?!!! I think not!!
I have read an article in a newspaper; it said that women are more organized humans, either at home or at office. Are we lower than you men?! Are we loosers as you think? We never were, and never will be? Just try to take it so easily and live with it.
Maybe some men will think that I am against men. Believe me I am not, I just want you men to know what we feel when we see your pride against us in you eyes.
As I said before, women are very sensitive creatures. We can feel everything you are thinking of inside your factories (brains). Sometimes we know that you are laughing at us, and you are not taking us seriously. But not because we are stupid and silly we skip it, it is because we trust in our abilities to change it one day. We keep our believes and fate in ourselves and work on it without complaining…
We believe that the stronger is who wins at the end. I know now what you are thinking of, men. You think of it as a battle, and you are smiling to see the swords on our necks, and you are the winner. But do you know how women see herself winner?! She sees herself in a lovely home, with her sweetheart husband, which she wins the battle because of you beside her, not because you are her enemy!! She wins the battle because of you, not against you!! Can see the difference?!!
Why men feel upset beside women? When a man talks to a woman who is crying and has a problem, he starts to find her a solution to her problem, he gives her options, do this and that. The more the options are, the more the tears fall. The more the tears fall, the man gets aggressive and out raged, why? I have a good explanation: you men get angry for two reasons:
1- you feel that the women you are trying to help her is so weak, can't help herself, and collapse into tears for a silly problem.
2- You can't see helpless, you get surprised and depressed to see that you are not helping. You are so selfish.
Do you know what we need from you in such situation? What we need is a light hug, and one short statement: honey, I believe in you, and I am sure you can solve your problem, and I will be beside you if you needed any help. PEACE OF CAKE, right?!
I would write 1000 pages in this topic, but I want to make as short as it could be and useful too.
What I want to convert to all of you men, is don’t make fun of us, and don’t think that we have the silliest interest in life.
One thing to remember: we can live without you, but you can't.
Trust our abilities and stand next to us, not behind us to support, because as much as you think you support us, we support you more than you imagine. Without our support you can't support us, but think of it the opposite way, we can support you without your support.
We are very intelligent to understand every change in your personality and every development in your spiritual state of mind. We respect your escape to your cave when you are in your deepest depression, and we share with you your happiness when you win a battle.
What do you do for us? Give me your answers men, what do you provide women, and please don’t tell me money, remember, we can make money.
How can you accept yourself a competitive not a superior? Show me how you love your women, tell me when you stood for her, not for yourself?
posted by gOt The sIGn?!! @ 7:25 PM
8 Comments:
What can I say after that all, you pick out my interior words, you just said what I did not know how to say.
Most of men know about these facts, and they know that without us, they will get lost, but they persuade their selves that they can handle it alone, in order not to make us feel about our importance in their life, and everything with them is under control.
Believe me that who will read this or other articles with the same subject from men will try to find excuses to their behavior with us, they will never confess about our role, and will stay considering us as second odd part in life. And let my generalize the accusation.
More over, I want to blame our societies, yes do not find this strange. Our societies that raise up males on strange beliefs, where the man is the controller, he must be insensitive, he cannot show up his feelings, he cannot cry in emotional situations, he is not taught how to deal with females in sensitive and caring way, and the last but not the least, he is raised up on considering his mother and sisters as creatures exist for his rest.
So tell me how is he going to deal with other females when he go out to the real life? how is he going to support his wife in her crisis? How is he going to rise up his sons on respecting females? And how is he going to deal his daughters? Just tell me…..
And if one of us tries to say something like these thoughts inside even the house, then she will be a strange woman, and she is trying to rise against the nature. Although God’s nature makes female a holy creature, without her, men are nothing.
i wont say much cause i don't like such topics but i have to say that u need not to think of it as a matter of 2 teams (men and women) it is just that there is people, and people vary between the good and the bad, the smart and the stubid ( speaking of stubidity i don't know if i spelt it right) ut anyway life is full of these people so don't try to classify them into teams.
Very impressive... to show the energy of women and their inside thoughts... and their dedication to prove their capabilities...i'm thinking of all working mums...or single mums...how they can afford to do so... as a man ... i believe we can not... NO WAY!!!!
but u have to know that life is all about competition ... inside us we are proud of what our wives do... we can not show it... we loose our edge...so we hide and keep it... i believe if men think of your approach 'being supportive and proud' life will be so idelestic...and it would be so boring...these differences make LIFE liveable...
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This is for FADI:
thank u for ur realistic comment, what u said is very true,, but again we as WOMEN need from time to time the feeling u have inside u MEN to be open and spoken loudly, so what the harm if u(men) told ur Mum, Sister, Aunt, Girlfriend, Fiance, Wife: "thank u for being arround, thank u for making my day,.. " thank her for anything, maybe thank her for being herself :) believe MAN u will like the feeling and u will on and on do it... bcz "u r men" u will love making ur partner happy... see, u r the boss again, so make her happy ...
this is for FAYAD:
at the beginning i misunderstood ur comment, after i read t again, i realised what u really mean...
i wish t would be a matter of people without making them 2 teams, this is what is wanted!!
but if u think of it this way, doesnt mean that everbody do... many women are victims of men who think themselves as superiors...
What r u trying to point at?!?! these topics are out of time. this is enough, there isn't a competition between men and women, both need each other, and every gender has his own capabilities. Let us forget about it, and try to understand the way we should treat each other, in order to have a clear mind to build our nation. I'm proud to be a Muslim, because my islam really gives me the way i should treat my mom, wife, workmate…etc. Real islam, not the one they use to dominate the females, either the one which they sneak behind it in order to get what they want from her under the slogans of freedom and deceit of equality in "everything", both men and women have a different nature, so have different rights and duties.
These articles and ideas what hurt our life. when we manage to stop such things, and deal with reasoning and good knowledge of our human nature, through our beliefs allah gives us from islam( with respect to others, we will be able to live happy and comfortable life, a life both man and woman build on mutual respect and understanding. To love each other, and to care for each part needs.
That’s it…I'm happy to join this blog, which seems interesting. Have a nice day everyone (BOTH men and women:P)
wow yousef,,, it is wonderful to see a man like u in our society,,, but again as i said b4, if u r like that, that doesnot mean that all men are so..
to be clear again.. these are ideas of women around me.. i see and hear alot to make me put all these words into one idea.. which is "respect women, pls"
thanks 4 ur comment, which i believe will give hope to many women reading this blog...
and ahla o sahla feek here :)
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